Best, or worst obituary you’ve ever seen

I respect the honesty here. I just hope that after I die, far kinder words are written about me by my family. From the Vallejo Times:

Dolores Aguilar
1929 – Aug. 7, 2008

Dolores Aguilar, born in 1929 in New Mexico, left us on August 7, 2008. She will be met in the afterlife by her husband, Raymond, her son, Paul Jr., and daughter, Ruby.

She is survived by her daughters Marietta, Mitzi, Stella, Beatrice, Virginia and Ramona, and son Billy; grandchildren, Donnelle, Joe, Mitzie, Maria, Mario, Marty, Tynette, Tania, Leta, Alexandria, Tommy, Billy, Mathew, Raymond, Kenny, Javier, Lisa, Ashlie and Michael; great-grandchildren, Brendan, Joseph, Karissa, Jacob, Delaney, Shawn, Cienna, Bailey, Christian, Andre Jr., Andrea, Keith, Saeed, Nujaymah, Salma, Merissa, Emily, Jayci, Isabella, Samantha and Emily. I apologize if I missed anyone.

Dolores had no hobbies, made no contribution to society and rarely shared a kind word or deed in her life. I speak for the majority of her family when I say her presence will not be missed by many, very few tears will be shed and there will be no lamenting over her passing.

Her family will remember Dolores and amongst ourselves we will remember her in our own way, which were mostly sad and troubling times throughout the years. We may have some fond memories of her and perhaps we will think of those times too. But I truly believe at the end of the day ALL of us will really only miss what we never had, a good and kind mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. I hope she is finally at peace with herself. As for the rest of us left behind, I hope this is the beginning of a time of healing and learning to be a family again.

There will be no service, no prayers and no closure for the family she spent a lifetime tearing apart. We cannot come together in the end to see to it that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren can say their goodbyes. So I say here for all of us, GOOD BYE, MOM.

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4 Responses to “Best, or worst obituary you’ve ever seen”

  1. shutupayouface Says:

    those i leave behind will have to lie and say i was handsome and funny, or they will get none of the $13 left in my bank account when i die.

  2. susan Says:

    all things being as written, are they sure she will be met by hubby, daughter and son who predeceased? or will someone else be there to greet her?

  3. honest in'jun Says:

    Do you know how happy someone was to finally get that off of their chest? I’m printing this for my mom, as collateral.

  4. Sharon Figueiredo Says:

    I knew this family – I was very close to Ramona and Ruby growing up in San Francisco and then eventually moving in with Ramona in Vallejo. Trust what was written …

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